Reclaiming the truth of our lovability and worth


This was rattling through my mind today… The most dangerous conspiracy theory of all, are the stories we make up about ourselves.

Experience, lack, success, failure, struggle, transition all like to be dictates of who we are but the one sure anchor for our souls is this…

“For God so LOVED the world….. NOTHING can separate us from His love!” (John 3:16, Romans 8:35)

We are lovable and loved so much!!! 

In the journey of life, there will always be moments where someone isn’t willing or able to love us, it doesn’t mean that we are unlovable.

Living courageous begins with inside of us. The most courageous thing we can do is love ourselves when we are messy and ugly inside. When the noble self goes walkabout and we are raw with the stories in our hearts, these moments are not for the fainthearted, but they are for the brave.

There will always be something questioning our worth and value. This is especially true if you are a leader.

As Brene Brown puts it so well, “Just because we didn’t measure up to some standard of achievement doesn’t mean that we don’t possess gifts and talents that only we can bring to the world. Just because someone failed to see the value in what we can create or achieve doesn’t change its worth or ours.”

The answer is never about what others do or don’t do, it is about what we do with the question of our worth and lovability. We must care for and cultivate the stories we tell ourselves.

This is no more true in the heartbreaking moments as it is in our most successful achievements.

Caroline Leaf says, “Love and fear are the root emotions – all the other emotions grow out of these. We are wired for love. We learn fear.” 

When we own the stories we make up rather than outworking them onto others, we begin to REMEMBER LOVE and embrace our natural wiring to love, and we begin to UNLEARN our fear. 

Unlearning fear in a society so intoxicated and enamored with it, is a full time job! But God partners with us and His gift to us is “a spirit of love, power and self control” (2 Tim 1:7) We are not alone. He is FOR us. 

So today, catch the stories you are making up about yourself and your worthiness. Forgive others for their imperfections. Be honest with where you are at. The truth while it sets us free, has a way of kicking us in the pants first.

Showing up in the business of life is no small thing. Care for your stories especially of those that speak of your worthiness and lovability. You are worth it.

You are loveable and very loved. The Bible tells you so. Choose His story about you. Receive His love for you. He is not scared of us and our stories. He is completely empty of fear. Anchor your soul again in Him.

What Others Are Saying

“This training is one of the most significant marker moments in my life and leadership. This will empower our culture to much more effectiveness and will change how people experience us and what we do here.”

R.THORPE | Youth With A Mission, Canberra, Australia


”Key to a church leader’s health and effectiveness in Kingdom work is the understanding and management of self and others. The Living Courage workshop provided me with profound insight and practical tools that I have drawn upon again and again in my work. I feel better able to identify vulnerability and to know how to lead others and myself towards creativity and courage, which has released people into greater freedom in Christ. An incredibly helpful workshop led with great clarity and energy by Helen, that I would recommend to church leaders, or to anyone desiring to better know themselves and others.”

Rev C. OGDEN | Anglican Church, Australia